Episode 38
How to stay resilient and love your life with Adam Markel
My guest today is someone really special to me.
In 2015 he inspired me to be better version of my self and really helped me reignite the fire when I was going through some challenges in my business. I attended his 3 day intense personal development event in Sydney. This was one of the best 3 days spent on myself and today 5 years later I'm privileged to have him as a guest on this show to help inspire you to be better too!
He is #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling author of the book Pivot: The Art & Science of Reinventing Your Career and Life.
As sought-after top international keynote speaker, emcee and workshop facilitator, he has reached tens of thousands worldwide with his message of Resilience as the competitive edge in the face of today’s complex markets.
An attorney, entrepreneur, transformational trainer and executive mentor, he is a business culture catalyst who inspires, empowers and guides organizations and individuals to create sustainable, high performance strategies.
His latest workbook, the I LOVE MY LIFE CHALLENGE i,s available for pre-order. Inspired by his viral TEDx Talk the workbook includes tangible, repeatable prompts and exercises that readers can use personally and professionally to center themselves for better performance in the face of change.
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Links & mentions:
- adammarkel.com
- ilovemylifechallenge.com - Get the I Love my life challenge - 28 day workbook
- your.resilienceculture.com - Find your resilience score
- Book recommendation 1 - Pivot: The Art and Science of Reinventing Your Career and Life
- Book recommendation 2 - Michael Brown 'The Presence Process'
Highlights:
- (00:00:28) - Introduction of my guest today
- (00:03:49) - We talk about importance of resilience
- (00:10:30) - Find out what your resilience score is
- (00:14:44) - Adam talks about his mid lifecalling and anxiety attack that kicked of his big career transition from being a lawyer
- (00:20:39) - Don't live in the past when you're trying to move foward
- (00:24:43) - What other people think of you is none of your business
- (00:26:21) - What if you decided to love your life? No matter what
- (00:32:56) - Take the I love my life Challenge
- (00:41:02) - Where do you start to find that first domino?
- (00:49:00) - Don't tear down the first bridge until you've got the second one built.
- (00:55:32) - What was that journey like for Adam to become a public speaker
- (01:07:17) - Mine and Adam's morning rituals we recommend to you
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Transcript:
Introduction of my guest today
Vit Muller: [00:00:28] Hello, everybody VIT here for another great interview on the Success Inspired Podcast. My guest today is somebody really special to me.In 2015, he inspired me to be better version of myself and really helped me reignite the fire when I was going through some challenges in my business, I attended his three-day intense personal development event in Sydney, and this was probably one of the best three days spent on myself.
[00:00:54] And today. Four years later, actually five years later, I'm privileged to have him as a guest on the show to help inspire you to become better too. He is number one wall street journal best-selling author of the book, Pivot , The Art and Science of reinventing your career and life. As a sought after top international keynote speaker MC and workshop facilitator, he has reached tens of thousands worldwide with his message of resilience.
[00:01:21] An attorney, entrepreneur, transformational trainer and executive mentor he is a business culture, catalyst who inspires and powers and guides, organizations, and individuals to create sustainable high-performance strategies. His latest workbook, the 'I love my life challenge' is available right now to pre-order at a time publishing this podcast is probably going to be available already. it's inspired by as viral TEDxTalk and the workbook includes tangible, repeatable prompts and exercises that readers can use personally and professionally to center themselves for better performance in the face of change, please welcome to the show, Adam markel.
Adam Markel: [00:02:07] Awesome to be here. Great. Great to, uh, for you and I to reconnect. Absolutely. Yeah. It's like where, where you and I are reigniting.
Vit Muller: [00:02:17] Oh, absolutely. Yeah. Like I'll tell you what, that, that 2015 or 2016. I can't remember. anyway, that year in ours. I was scaling my business, you know, my fitness business, I was taking over a gym.
[00:02:30] I was, you know I just signed a exclusivity agreement to, to have personal trainers working under me and everything are going well. But also at the same time I was working longer hours. And and you know, I felt like maybe a little bit of doubt, you know, that the, the imposter syndrome a little bit.
[00:02:46] So going to your event, I might say, you know, I left well, like. Very refreshed, you know, like some, some, there was some real key questions that you asked us the audience and, and some exercises, some breakthrough exercises that we did. And I really enjoyed the whole experience, you know, like the breaking of the arrow against the neck and, and chipping the board.
[00:03:09] And, yeah, so it was really amazing. Just want to say, you know, thank you once, once again for delivering cause it was really, I would say probably one of the best, best events I went to and highly recommended anybody guys listening while at I'm not sure if you, if you, if you still do these events, uh, but if you guys get to see a chance to see him live, uh, public speaking, he is an excellent public speaker.
[00:03:33] And yet once again, I just want to say thank you for what you do. It's amazing work.
Adam Markel: [00:03:37] Thank you Vit. No, I appreciate it. Yeah, the, yeah, go ahead. No, after you go right ahead,
Vit Muller: [00:03:44] say, you know I was gonna just say we could dive straight right in, and, and I was going to ask, you know,
Importance of resilience
[00:03:49] what inspired is focused around resilience that you always talk about?
Adam Markel: [00:03:52] Well, resilience, I think is, is the, it really is the most important thing that we can develop as. Entrepreneurs as business leaders, owners, operators of a business. And personally, so personally and professionally, it it's, it's the, it's the most tangible thing right now that we can, that we can do. And I think a lot of people don't quite get the concept of resilience.
[00:04:17] It's, it's something that I think people equate to the ability to bounce back, like. That's their philosophy. I just throw up a graphic on the screen that says this little, little uh, saying like a fortune cookie saying that you've got to develop resilience before you need it. That's that's the key.
[00:04:37] I mean, so many people, I think this year in particular with, uh, with COVID have gotten caught off guard and the, the fear that, that. It has produced, has really impeded many people from growing, growing in their business and growing personally. So to me, the answer to that, the answer to the virus, if you will, is resilience.
[00:05:01] Yes. Is there a vaccine and is a vaccine important and, and. Uh, all of that is, uh, you know, a person's sort of personal, uh, choice in terms of whether the vaccine is something you're going to take or not. But regardless of that, resilience is the vaccine. Resilience is not just the vaccine for the COVID crisis.
[00:05:21] And, and for that, that, but it's for any disruption it's for any level of, of change or uncertainty that you have to deal with on a daily basis. And resilience is something that anybody can develop. Our company has been doing quite a bit of research about resilience. Few years now. And, and for me, when I looked get the successes in my own life, both in my personal life, which we can talk a little bit about that as well as talk about professionally one common denominator in every new, new achievement or new high water Mark in, in my personal or my professional life has always been this, this resilience, this thing that sort of sounds or feels intangible.
[00:06:06] And defining it and, and being able to understand it and understand how it is that you cultivate it and grow it and strengthen it. That's become much more of my life work in the last several years
Understanding true meaning of resiliance
Vit Muller: [00:06:19] now, for some, this can be a really tricky idea of, you know, how, how do they start? Like some people, I don't know if they've been living for a long time.
[00:06:28] In a state of, uh, in a reactive state and always sort of, you know, ducking their head in the sand. W w when, when things go rough hearing you speak about resilience, how do they, you know, how do they start? I mean, where, where does one start with that, that process of being resilient?
Adam Markel: [00:06:49] Well, I think if, no, it's such a great question Vit because it, resilience is, in some ways we have to start about.
[00:06:57] Saying what it's not, I think it's an easy place for us to begin. And then let's talk about what it actually is. So what it's not is, is endurance. Resilience, isn't about how you endure. So this is not about, you know, the Rocky Balboa mode of being where, you know, if you can remember from the Rocky, I think there's eight Rocky movies that Sylvester Stallone has made.
[00:07:18] But for me, the most impactful was the first one, probably because I was a little kid and I saw that movie with my dad. And I remember being in the theater and seeing, you know, this larger than life, character who's in the, in the ring. And for folks that have never seen it, you got to see the original 1976 version of Rocky.
[00:07:37] Right. So Rocky gets knocked down and he. Of course gets back up, right. That he gets knocked down. He gets back up, he gets knocked down. He gets back up, he gets knocked down. I don't know, dozens of times in that movie, you know, and every single time the guy gets back up. And so what ends up happening is he wins our hearts and we love him as a character.
[00:07:58] He wins our hearts. But he loses the fight. Right. And, and I'm originally from the East coast of the United States, New York. And, and as, as my, uh, brethren from that area would probably say at the end, the Rocky, he don't look too good. Right. He don't, he it's all banged up and he loses and he loses the fight.
[00:08:21] And our research is really clear when it comes to resilience . Resilience is not about endurance. It's not purely physical. It's mental, it's emotional, it's even spiritual. It's not about how we are enduring. It's about how we recover that the re the, the, the, uh, Information that we've been able to gather is clear that recovery rituals, th the, the development of our recovery rituals is really key to developing our resilience.
[00:08:53] So, first of all, it's not about endurance. It's about recovery. It's not about bouncing back as so many people think resilience is all about bouncing back. It's really about bouncing forward. That's why to me, it's so tangible for everybody at this place in their life, wherever people are personally or professionally.
[00:09:13] Developing a resilience now is so key, not just because it will help you to bounce forward from the current situation, which has created great change across the globe, but it will help you to bounce forward in the future when disruption comes again, because one thing we know for certain, this is not the last time that our world or our markets will be disrupted.
[00:09:35] It may not be this virus again, it will be something else. But rest assured it will be, it will be something. And regardless, I mean, this is the first time we've seen it sort of on a, on a macro scale, that one single event took out the entire world. We may never see that again. We may, we may never, but we know for sure that in our personal lives, we have things taking us out all the time.
[00:09:59] Every every year, like clockwork, it's going to be something. It might be the death of someone in your life. It might be a, be a business idea that doesn't work that you have to pivot. Right. My first book was called pivot and it's. It's the case that you may well have to pivot in your life for pivot in your business in some way.
[00:10:18] And all of those things you have to develop resilience for. So what I, I, I would say is that right now, there are three ways that everybody can increase their level of resilience. And
Find out what your resilience score is
[00:10:30] I think as a starting point, we have to have a baseline. We have to have a benchmark. No benchmarking is so important. I've been a CEO for many, many years.
[00:10:38] I was a lawyer for 18 years as well. We've got to know where we're starting from. So for the people who are watching, listening to this right now, you can go to a simple, a website to a URL to get. Uh, a read on where you're at to get your rank, uh, resilience wise. If you will, you can go to your.resilienceculture.com, your.resilienceculture.com
[00:11:04] and in three minutes, that's the beauty of it. This assessment will basically let you know what your score is, what your rank is in those four key areas of resilience, the physical area of course, we understand that. There's a physical element to it, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. So that will help to establish what's the benchmark what's that, that starting point or I should say the baseline.
[00:11:28] And then from there we built and the three things that we build are the three things that you can see on the screen right now, we've got to develop these themes of resilience, the theme of reframing, the theme of resetting and the theme of regenerating. And we can choose to dive into any one or all of these things during, during our interview.
[00:11:48] It's you know, whatever you think is going to serve the audience best.
Vit Muller: [00:11:51] Right? So few things I want to add. So the firstly the assessment, the online assessment is the online assessment is an excellent tool. Definitely. I've done it. I'm just trying to look up my stats, but I'll see if I can,
Adam Markel: [00:12:05] did you get your score? I love it.
Vit Muller: [00:12:06] Yeah. I got my score. Yeah, absolutely. I'm just see if I can find it, but I'll get to that in a second....
