Episode 64
How to turn your life around aka from homelessness to success with Dr Robb Kelly
My guest today is a world renowned addiction expert who believes addiction is a thinking problem not a drinking problem or using problem. He has helped over 6,000 people ranging from celebrities to everyday people who want to live in sustained sobriety and recovery.
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- www.robbkelly.com
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- https://www.instagram.com/addiction_doctor/
Highlights:
- [00:00:57] The roots of Robb's alcoholism problem
- [00:02:30] When Robb stabbed his wife over vodka
- [00:05:18] Losing family and Robb's journey to homelessness
- [00:13:41] Robb's past playing at Abbey Road with all the famous musicians
- [00:16:08] So how did Robb turn his life around ?
- [00:21:02] Power of positive psychology and conscious decision to achieve greater things in life
- [00:24:31] Everybody is capable of achieving more in life
- [00:38:33] Story about Robert Downey Jr
- [00:48:15] 3 Take away point
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Transcript
Welcome to the Success Inspired Podcast, a business and personal development
Speaker:podcast to help you accomplish more in life and realize your true potential.
Speaker:And now here is your host Vit Muller
Speaker:Hello everybody, welcome to another episode on a Success Inspired Podcast.
Speaker:My guest today is a world renowned addiction expert who believes
Speaker:addiction is a thinking problem not a drinking problem or using problem.
Speaker:He has helped over 6,000 people ranging from celebrities to
Speaker:everyday people who want to live in sustained sobriety and recovery.
Speaker:Please.
Speaker:Welcome to the show Dr.
Speaker:Rob Kelly.
Speaker:Thank you Vit, good to be here.
Speaker:Absolutely great to be here.
Speaker:Great to have you on the show, mate.
Speaker:So eventually you should a little bit, but what's something that a
Speaker:lot of people don't know about.
Speaker:well, they call me the addiction doctor because I specialize in addiction.
Speaker:I started drinking at the age of nine and I have a chronic alcohol problem.
Speaker:I've not drank for some time now, but yeah, it ruined my life.
Speaker:Really my children's life.
Speaker:and you know, the ups and downs of alcohol.
Speaker:I took my first drink at the age of nine on stage with my musical family
Speaker:and the, you know, the stories are horrendous leading to homelessness
Speaker:and then back to where I am today.
Speaker:So the journey has been wild, absolutely wild.
Speaker:And my book goes into that.
Speaker:It's like a lows of the lows, highs of the highs then back lows of the lows
Speaker:again, and then I ended up here so.
Speaker:I'm in San Antonio, Texas.
Speaker:Although I'm originally from Manchester United Kingdom.
Speaker:I've been in Texas for about 14 years now.
Speaker:And I love me some Texas.
Speaker:So what led to that?
Speaker:I mean, musical family, was it, was it the surrounding, like you said,
Speaker:started drinking at nine years old,
Speaker:I've started drinking at nine.
Speaker:My uncle gave me a beer, between sets one and two and, . I took them.
Speaker:the beer and wow!
Speaker:It was just amazing.
Speaker:Made me feel good.
Speaker:And it gave me loads of confidence.
Speaker:So, every time we played Friday, Saturday and Sunday, I would, I would
Speaker:start drinking and it was just, you know, probably half a glass of beer.
Speaker:That's all.
Speaker:But it was enough to get me rocking and rolling and, you
Speaker:know, having a great time.
Speaker:So that's why I did, I wasn't drinking alcoholically then alcohol was working
Speaker:for me throughout many, many years, including high school and college.
Speaker:And then probably when I got married to my wife and had two kids, that's
Speaker:when it started to turn on me and really things went really wrong for me.
Speaker:What happened?
Speaker:Well, when I got married, I, I was drinking heavily when I got married,
Speaker:but, There's a couple of things I'm not proud of, but one of them was that I
Speaker:was drinking alcoholically and I woke up at two or three in the morning,
Speaker:four o'clock and come downstairs to the kitchen to find some vodka.
Speaker:And I found it and I put it on the side.
Speaker:Of the kitchen counter for a second while I turned around and got a crystal glass.
Speaker:And as I did, my wife had quietly followed me downstairs and she snatched
Speaker:the bottle of vodka from the counter and she held it against the chest and
Speaker:she says, I think you've had enough now.
Speaker:She was probably right, because I've been drinking all the time when I was due to
Speaker:go to work in about four hours time.
Speaker:So what I should have said is, thank you Mrs.
Speaker:Kelly, and go back to bed.
Speaker:Unfortunately, what I did was took a kitchen knife out and stabbed her three
Speaker:times and she went to the floor bleeding.
Speaker:I got my bottle of vodka, finished it off, call a taxi call the police.
Speaker:And, the taxi rank was just literally around the corner.
Speaker:So he pulled up within a minute and I waited so that I could hear the sirens.
Speaker:I jumped in the taxi cab and I fled to Spain.
Speaker:And I staid in Spain Uh, for some time, until they promised and signed contracts,
Speaker:legal documents that I would not be charged with the attempted murder.
Speaker:it's pretty bad, but I wasn't the worst.
Speaker:It got worse than that.
Speaker:Got a lot worse than that when I lost my children and that was the most
Speaker:devastating devastation part of my life.
Speaker:But it happened, you know, after, after the stabbing incident, we
Speaker:lived in this beautiful house, very, very large `house, brand new cars
Speaker:you know, my business was thriving.
Speaker:And, when I came up from Spain, Literally on the day I flew back, I got a taxi back
Speaker:home and as I walked in to the door.
Speaker:She had, three suitcases packed and the children ready to go.
Speaker:And as I walked in to the door She said to me, he said, Rob, I love
Speaker:you to the day I die but you're not going to kill our kids.
Speaker:And then she left and I was so angry.
Speaker:I was screaming at her the children was there and it's
Speaker:probably ages one and three.
Speaker:Nick could hear this going on.
Speaker:So I in a drunken rage call my attorneyand and threatened him if he
Speaker:didn't get my kids back within 24 hours.
Speaker:That I wasn't going to do any business with him.
Speaker:And we did a lot of money with this guy.
Speaker:So he went to court and somehow the next day he turned up with my children.
Speaker:He got some sort of court order worked in my favor and I got my children back.
Speaker:So I remember taking them into the living room.
Speaker:I give this guy, a big check for doing what he did and I bought
Speaker:into the living room and I was so proud that I could be dad.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Cause I knew nobody was taking him them of me.
Speaker:That was it.
Speaker:You don't do that to me, cause I will retaliate.
Speaker:And what happened was I sat in front of the TV, went into the
Speaker:kitchen and I thought, wouldn't it be great if I just had one drink to
Speaker:celebrate the children coming back.
Speaker:And then three days later, The police bust the door down.
Speaker:I had no idea between them three days, I'd been drinking solidly.
Speaker:My children had not been fed or, or changed diapers for two days.
Speaker:And, they served unfit father papers and neglect and all
Speaker:that stuff it had in there.
Speaker:And then they grabbed my two children.
Speaker:And mom got a three-year-old old and they start to walk down the path and everybody
Speaker:was crying and it was a sad state.
Speaker:And my daughter said three things to me, she said, daddy, daddy, please don't go.
Speaker:And she walked further down the park she turned around again, and she
Speaker:says, daddy, daddy, please get better.
Speaker:And as she got to the gate and opened the gates she turned around
Speaker:one more final time and she says, daddy, daddy, please stop drinking.
Speaker:And I couldn't do it.
Speaker:I just couldn't do it.
Speaker:I went back in the house.
Speaker:I open another bottle of vodka.
Speaker:I remember roundabout three, four.
Speaker:I don't know how long it was.
Speaker:Maybe two, three months later I was homeless.
Speaker:The house had gone.
Speaker:The cars had gone, my kids had gone, the wife had gone, the license
Speaker:have gone the business closed down.
Speaker:I went from that house to my mom's house.
Speaker:Lasted three days at my mom's house.
Speaker:She threw me out because of my drinking.
Speaker:Went to friends from friends and acquaintances and from acquaintances,
Speaker:living on the streets, slept in a bus shelter the first night that
Speaker:my, my acquaintance threw me out.
Speaker:and then I went to the middle of Manchester is like a garden
Speaker:then they'll benches and us.
Speaker:I stayed there for 14.
Speaker:Nobody would speak to me.
Speaker:Nobody.
Speaker:When I called home, he put the phone down on me, so it was abandoned on the streets.
Speaker:And, and then my first night thinking, what the hell just happened?
Speaker:Why did all that go wrong?
Speaker:Because I'm the guy that played the Abbey road.
Speaker:I'm the guy, that's friends with Elton John, Bowie, Queen, all them guys.
Speaker:You know, I remember that, at Elton John's house once with a couple of
Speaker:other famous guys and we laughed and we looked at each other and Elton said,
Speaker:where did, where did we all go wrong?
Speaker:And it was kind of funny cause they were all rich.
Speaker:but I had that thought again when I was on the streets
Speaker:because I didn't have anything.
Speaker:I had no.
Speaker:nothing to my name.
Speaker:I had to beg for alcohol.
Speaker:And when I couldn't, I couldn't beg for money to get alcohol,
Speaker:then I'd go and steal it.
Speaker:So I got arrested a few times and just drunk and disorderly, and, you
Speaker:know, vagrants and stuff like that.
Speaker:I got picked up.
Speaker:So yeah, it was, it wasn't, it wasn't good.
Speaker:And, and the way I survived back then was I went down.
Speaker:I would beat people up after nightclubs to get money.
Speaker:I'd rubbed the wallets.
Speaker:And I'd do anything for alcohol.
Speaker:My life was a 14 month alcohol binge.
Speaker:I never came out of and suicide attempts, six suicide attempts
Speaker:on two occasions as succeeded.
Speaker:And they, the EMT has brought me back to life again, which I was really annoyed
Speaker:about, because it wasn't a cry for help.
Speaker:I wanted to kill myself.
Speaker:I couldn't live anymore.
Speaker:And, yeah.
Speaker:Life was pretty bad then.
Speaker:Wow, I'm lost for words
Speaker:I know many, many people wow when they see me, a lot of people
Speaker:heard of me, obviously, not a lot of people know who I am.
Speaker:When you sit down.
Speaker:I did a, I did a charity thing the other day for veterans and first responders.
Speaker:And I tell my story in the room is shocked because I look at what I do
Speaker:today, you know, and how famous I am if famous is a word, I don't know,
Speaker:but how recognized I am with my TV and my books and all that stuff I do.
Speaker:But when you sit down and tell them the story, everyone's reaction is like yours,
Speaker:but silence it's like the first time it happened, I'm like, you guys scare anybody
Speaker:or people are just like, oh my God.
Speaker:You know?
Speaker:And it's just crazy, crazy.
Speaker:Well, so yeah.
Speaker:What was it?
Speaker:What was the main premise of your addiction?
Speaker:Because you said that, you know, your uncle gave you a
Speaker:sip of beer when you were nine.
Speaker:So it was more like a, just for pleasure, like just, it gave you confidence.
Speaker:It wasn't to deal with any, any issues.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:was that the main reason why you kept going, because it was helping you with the
Speaker:confidence, or what was the trigger for you later on and why did you keep going?
Speaker:Well, what happens is since I came up the street for the
Speaker:last, I dunno, how many years?
Speaker:20 - 30, I've been studying the alcoholic brain and the addicted
Speaker:brain and alcoholism as a whole and become a specialist at it.
Speaker:Neuroplasticity and neuroscience is what I studied today.
Speaker:So going back, I was born an alcoholic.
Speaker:So alcoholics are born.
Speaker:You can't drink enough alcohol to make you an alcoholic.
Speaker:You may abuse alcohol, but an alcoholic is not somebody who drinks too much alcohol.
Speaker:And people are amazed by that.
Speaker:So I'm born this way.
Speaker:It's a predisposition passed down from my parents, might skip a gen.
Speaker:It skipped my generation with my brother.
Speaker:Didn't touch him at all, but me.
Speaker:I got it.
Speaker:So the first time I saw Al my body, it was only a matter of
Speaker:time before it all went wrong.
Speaker:So alcohol worked for a long time.
Speaker:A real long time and gave me so much confidence.
Speaker:I was like 15, 16 when I went for the job at Abbey road and
Speaker:people are laughing at me.
Speaker:It's like this kid walks in with this huge guitar and you have all
Speaker:these veteran bass players waiting to audition for this perceived position.
Speaker:And I don't give a shit.
Speaker:I was like half drunk, walked in, cocky, sat down and got my guitar.
Speaker:I played with the stuff they told me to play and then manuscripts and
Speaker:then just, just left and went home.
Speaker:And I did that seven times and finally got the job.
Speaker:You know, so alcohol really was working for me a lot of times through college and
Speaker:then, you know, I'd mixed with cocaine and Speed, Amphetamin and, yeah, I, I
Speaker:tried coming off alcohol for a month.
Speaker:I'd use amphetamines and cocaine, and then it makes you have a drug problem.
Speaker:So I went back to alcohol for a few years and it just bounced back.
Speaker:So I'm, I was, I was hooked from the first.
Speaker:So it's really interesting how the brain works because, because we're born this
Speaker:way, our brain is, well, my brain is allergic to the ethanol and alcohol,
Speaker:you know, whereas drug addicts, they have to take certain amounts of drugs.
Speaker:They like.
Speaker:Then they become addicted to it and the addiction and alcoholism show up
Speaker:the same, but it's not quite the same.
Speaker:So a little tiny difference.
Speaker:It doesn't mean treatment differs or 12 step groups, doesn't differ.
Speaker:That's not talking about that.
Speaker:I'm talking about the precise change with the, with the ethanol and the, my brain
Speaker:being rematched, especially from trauma.
Speaker:Every alcoholic has trauma period.
Speaker:Not even going to argue with anybody about that six and a half thousand patients
Speaker:down the line, I can categorically say that every alcoholic has trauma.
Speaker:So the trauma mixed with mind disposition that's been passed on to me.
Speaker:I'd never stood a chance.
Speaker:It was always going to end up homeless, always or jail for life.
Speaker:How I didn't kill anybody.
Speaker:I don't know.
Speaker:I battered people, I stabbed people.
Speaker:You know when I was on the streets just to survive.
Speaker:So, you know, I could have quite easily ended up in.
Speaker:prison for the rest of my life.
Speaker:In fact, there was one crazy time when I was actually thinking of killing
Speaker:somebody, because I had nowhere to go they put me in jail first and I laugh.
Speaker:They Lisa's got some food every day.
Speaker:I mean, the thoughts of the crazy thoughts that went through your head,
Speaker:what that, that 14 months is just crazy.
Speaker:You watch a life going on around you and you just start and people
Speaker:walk over you and spits at you.
Speaker:And you know, when you ask for money, they're nasty to you.
Speaker:I mean, it's just horrible.
Speaker:I kept saying, gee, how do you know, do you know who I am?
Speaker:And I get with all these drugs and homeless people and go, Hey, you know, I'm
Speaker:a doctor and they would laugh like crazy.
Speaker:They would laugh like crazy.
Speaker:It's not how I'm trying to be doctor.
Speaker:So, you know, . I'm going to, I'm going to go down.
Speaker:I'm going to do this, that, and they laughed and laughed.
Speaker:and then when I told them I play with it while he's famous, , they laughed and
Speaker:laughed because of course it wasn't true.
Speaker:As far as they're concerned, I was just another bum on the streets, but had
Speaker:done all of a sudden amazing things, but alcoholism still took it away.
Speaker:Let's let's start it on a positive here a little bit, because this is all very
Speaker:dark and gloomy and, very shocking.
Speaker:when I was preparing for this interview, I know you send me a bio and, and
Speaker:about what you do now, and you've kind of hinted on what, what your past was
Speaker:but I had no idea how, how bad it was.
Speaker:So, I definitely want to talk to you about how did you get through all
Speaker:that, but, before we get to that,
Speaker:I'm also curious, what was that job like in, in Abbey road?
Speaker:I loved it.
Speaker:I passed the audition and, you know, I'd play maybe four times a week.
Speaker:So in case people don't know the way session musicians work is usually
Speaker:you're stepping in for a bass player, guitar player, whatever mine was bass.
Speaker:So you step in for a bass player when he was sick or ill or
Speaker:what tends to happen in those.
Speaker:Is the band would be would be given like, I don't know, half a million
Speaker:dollars to produce the first single or album they'd go out and do that.
Speaker:It Hits the charts.
Speaker:They would get the first paycheck.
Speaker:Now when it comes to making the second album, you know,
Speaker:Johnny was drunk all the time.
Speaker:Billy's overdosed on heroin.
Speaker:So they would bring session, players into lay the tracks now.
Speaker:So I would go in many times, I wouldn't see whose song it was, but I remember,
Speaker:you know, when, when, when, Freddie Mercury came in, and we did some tracks
Speaker:together and you never know what it is.
Speaker:You just do your tracking piece.
Speaker:They'll give you music, your bass part, and you just play it.
Speaker:but we, we spent, we spent many early morning times drinking coffee and talking
Speaker:about life It was absolutely phenomenal, but most of the time I'm drunk or wasted,
Speaker:so I didn't really appreciate it, back then, but it was a prestigious job.
Speaker:I never thought of it like that, I just thought it was another
Speaker:job, anybody can do this.
Speaker:I didn't appreciate because I don't think it did when you, when you, when you're a
Speaker:kid, you know, when you're under 21, it's just like, things were meant to happen.
Speaker:You go through them, you don't appreciate them until they get older.
Speaker:You go, wow.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:annoying person would be Elton John when he gets in his moods.
Speaker:The most amazing person would be, Freddie is one of the most
Speaker:amazing persons I've ever seen.
Speaker:and yeah, it was just amazing.
Speaker:I was going to college as well.
Speaker:The money from that put me through college because no one in our
Speaker:family had gone to college before.
Speaker:So I was the first.
Speaker:I went to Oxford, you know, it an, all this money.
Speaker:I joined the Freemasons an early age because they need an organist and it's
Speaker:like, all my life was going amazing.
Speaker:But yeah, it was good.
Speaker:And everything, since that, there's been a lot of ups and downs, but most of the
Speaker:time my life has took off like crazy.
Speaker:No matter what I send my hand to usually it works.
Speaker:That would have been amazing with all these musicians.
Speaker:Imagine, imagine where you could have been if, you know,
Speaker:if you didn't end up on street.
Speaker:If you didn't.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:If, if what happened, didn't happen.
Speaker:But if, if we've right, well, let's not worry about that.
Speaker:Let's talk about future and let's talk about how did
Speaker:you, how did you overcome it?
Speaker:How did you turn your, turn your life around?
Speaker:Well, I'm on the streets after the 13 months is pouring down with rain and just
Speaker:coming out of an alcoholic binge, but I don't have any alcohol it's past midnight.
Speaker:it's around two, three o'clock in the morning.
Speaker:And I strolled across the backend of Manchester, United Kingdom and the
Speaker:people at where nobody goes, it's just a dark road with cobblestones on.
Speaker:And I dropped to my hands and knees and I started crying, you know,
Speaker:like a baby from my stomach pain.
Speaker:And my stomach was horrible.
Speaker:I remember looking into this.
Speaker:I'm never a religious person, but I just said, if there's a God up there,
Speaker:can't do this on my own anymore.
Speaker:And about 30 seconds later, a guy walked around the corner, he'd miss
Speaker:his last bus home from a Bible study.
Speaker:And he bumped into me.
Speaker:He said, can I help you?
Speaker:And I said, yeah, I'm dying.
Speaker:And he took me back to his house.
Speaker:He happened to be an alcoholic and he took me back and he said,
Speaker:Hey, I've been where you are.
Speaker:You can stay there for as long as you are.
Speaker:Well, just want to get you well and help you.
Speaker:And that's where I'm at.
Speaker:My journey started.
Speaker:To where I am today.
Speaker:Just like everything was meant to be like, you know, I got in that house.
Speaker:And then after I met this other guy in a 12 step room and he said he would
Speaker:take me through some programs and this great book, to educate myself.
Speaker:And he told me that I need never drink again.
Speaker:And my life could be amazing sort of clung onto this guy.
Speaker:And we went through the stuff and.
Speaker:He said your life's going to change from now on your life's going to change after I
Speaker:went there for about eight weeks, I think every Wednesday night and sure enough,
Speaker:after I finished with them, I got a part-time job turned into a full-time job.
Speaker:Then somebody at the place gave me a car and then car, it wasn't amazing,
Speaker:but it was enough to get me to work.
Speaker:And back then I moved into a a really nice, it was like sober house.
Speaker:And then from there I got an apartment and, just started
Speaker:building and building and then.
Speaker:I'm speaking to this girl, you know, early kind of internet chat rooms.
Speaker:And, we started talking and she was in Dallas, Texas, which I
Speaker:thought was really glamorous.
Speaker:Cause I'd seen the Dallas TV program years ago, so we're chatting away and, and then
Speaker:she just said, Hey, my local church, you know, there's a big crack cocaine problem.
Speaker:Would you ever think of coming over for like four days and doing some seminars?
Speaker:I said, yeah, I'd love to.
Speaker:So she arranged that.
Speaker:So they got, we got the date and everything, and I
Speaker:had the tickets have ready.
Speaker:And about a week before I was about to come and stay packing my stuff slowly
Speaker:but surely as I washed it, I packed it.
Speaker:I got my, passport out on an expired by about five, six
Speaker:days I was like, holy gold.
Speaker:No.
Speaker:So I didn't call her cause I was panicked and embarrassed.
Speaker:So I got down to Liverpool, which is 35 mile drive and I took it to the
Speaker:passport office and he looked at it and he said, do you want to expediting?
Speaker:So I was saying, yeah, I need it in like six days.
Speaker:And he said, oh, no, expedites in is about four weeks.
Speaker:It's normally 12 weeks, but we can get it through fast in four weeks.
Speaker:So I just, I didn't know what to do.
Speaker:So I just said, okay, I'll pay the money and that's it.
Speaker:And I went back home and I was supposed to fly on a Saturday
Speaker:and this was like the Tuesday.
Speaker:And I was so scared of calling her or getting on the chat room
Speaker:with her to say, I couldn't come.
Speaker:And then the day before I was supposed to fly.
Speaker:So the Friday, there was a knock at the door and my passport arrived.
Speaker:So when I locked back, all them things started to happen to me.
Speaker:And I came over here for two or three, four days only.
Speaker:And when I put my foot down on American soil at Dallas international airport,
Speaker:DFW, I knew I was never going to go home.
Speaker:And that's what happened.
Speaker:They got all my licenses stopped over to America and we started a practice in
Speaker:Dallas, Texas, and never looked back.
Speaker:And that was about 14 years ago.
Speaker:But when she reached out to you, you were already doing this type of stuff
Speaker:or was it just kind of as a result of her talking to you and you talking to
Speaker:her about how you've overcome addiction?
Speaker:I was kind of already doing it, but not full time.
Speaker:I was only doing a part-time basis, had another job to pay the real bills.
Speaker:But yeah, our story was, she was married to an alcoholic before the divorce.
Speaker:So that's how the conversation started.
Speaker:But, you know, I did have a little bit of a reputation, nothing like it is
Speaker:now, but it was just, I guess it was some sort of calling or something I
Speaker:was on, but you know, best thing I ever did, if it wasn't from speaking to that
Speaker:lady, Um I would never be here cause I never dream of coming over to America.
Speaker:I'd never been to America.
Speaker:The furthest I'd been from our country, England was Spain and
Speaker:that's like an hour and a half away.
Speaker:I wouldn't even dream of traveling 12.
Speaker:It used to be 12 hours all them years ago.
Speaker:Now they do it in nine, I think, but I wouldn't even
Speaker:dream of doing that, but I did.
Speaker:And I'm here.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:You were saying, like you wanted to, you wanted to do something about the
Speaker:alcoholism and about the drug addiction problem and you kept cycling through
Speaker:when it was too much drug addiction, you went back to alcoholism and, and,
Speaker:obviously it sounded like you kind of wanted to do something about it, but,
Speaker:but in a way it was, it sounds like it was also thankfully due to the,
Speaker:the, the series of events that have.
Speaker:Meeting meeting that is that priest meeting that guy on a street.
Speaker:Let's call him a priest.
Speaker:I'm not sure if he was a priest, but let's call him priest.
Speaker:and then, and then she to that girl in Dallas and then that sort of opened
Speaker:up the door for what you do now.
Speaker:I'm sure there'll be a lot of listeners right now.
Speaker:That might be, you know, where you were before, perhaps, you know, thinking
Speaker:about this as, you know, like, it sounds like you kind of got lucky, you know,
Speaker:Well, I guess some breaks will be good, but I've, I've, also studied, a little bit
Speaker:of quantum physics, you know, due to the alcoholic brain and I can categorically
Speaker:stand and say to you that if you want something bad enough, it happens.
Speaker:So whatever you can visualize in your mind, you can hold in your hand.
Speaker:That's a guaranteed fact, but people then dream that they don't even think that,
Speaker:oh, I want to say to people, if you, if you're sat at home and you're thinking.
Speaker:You're a piece of crap or you're never going to amount to anything,
Speaker:or this is your lot in life.
Speaker:I want to apologize to you because somebody put that there.
Speaker:We're not born this way.
Speaker:We're born with million dollar minds yet.
Speaker:We tend to hang around 10 cent mines.
Speaker:It's like, if you want it bad enough, you'll get it.
Speaker:If you want information about recovery, you'll get it.
Speaker:If you want to earn $60,000 a year, and you're only earning 20
Speaker:right now, start hanging around the guys that earned 60 grand a year.
Speaker:All these things, quantum physics and.
Speaker:And the way the world is in the universe, it all works in a certain way.
Speaker:And to crack that code, it's just amazing.
Speaker:I mean, I've worked with six and a half thousand people since doing this job.
Speaker:And most of them that I know have gone on to lead an amazing life because you
Speaker:know, whether you believe in God or the universe or something, something that is
Speaker:looking out after each and every one of us, it's got nothing to do with religion.
Speaker:You know, it's a spiritual path, but if you, if you realize that and then
Speaker:start acting like we should, you know, being kind to another human
Speaker:band, always help when you can, always say kind words, do work on yourself,
Speaker:especially your childhood trauma.
Speaker:And when you get through the, all that things start to happen really quick,
Speaker:because that's what happened to me.
Speaker:The guy, I finally went through the work with who I walked to see every
Speaker:Wednesday evening for eight weeks.
Speaker:When I, when I finally finished with him.
Speaker:About one or two weeks after that, I got my first paycheck.
Speaker:I got a little Teddy bear and a card and I walked back to that man's house.
Speaker:Like I've been doing for eight weeks.
Speaker:And when I got back, there was nobody.
Speaker:And I bang that door on the apartment and the next next lady come out and the next,
Speaker:next door to me, he says, can I help you?
Speaker:I said, can you tell me where John relocated to?
Speaker:And she said, there's been known in an apartment for at least six months.
Speaker:I've been here.
Speaker:So we're onto the other side and not at this guy, what sort of door?
Speaker:And I said, Hey, got a loony tunes next door.
Speaker:She doesn't remember.
Speaker:I came here for about eight weeks.
Speaker:Do you remember.
Speaker:And he said, John, there's been no one, that name living here.
Speaker:I know that apartment has been empty for at least a year
Speaker:and I could never trace him.
Speaker:You see, I wanted it bad enough.
Speaker:And whoever is looking after me, I call it God looking after me sent
Speaker:me the right people when I wanted
Speaker:but if you're happy sitting at home, not doing anything with your life and
Speaker:struggling for money and stuff like that, you're never going to get any help.
Speaker:No one's going to come to the door and knock on your door and go,
Speaker:Hey, there's a hundred thousand dollar job that you can have.
Speaker:You have to go out and seek it.
Speaker:And everybody is capable of seeking it.
Speaker:You see, there's no difference between me on the streets and, and, and me
Speaker:now, the only difference is the guy on the street wanted this badly.
Speaker:You look up around your city, , you see these big CEOs earning million dollars
Speaker:a year, the only difference between you and him is he wants it better than you.
Speaker:It's got nothing to do with education.
Speaker:Colleges is not a college degree, does not get you a hundred
Speaker:grand a year job these days.
Speaker:. You know, I know people with doctorates, you know, and masters that are working
Speaker:at Kentucky fried chicken, and McDonald's I mean, it's how bad you want it.
Speaker:The world is at our fingertips right now, especially with everyone's online.
Speaker:Especially through COVID, you know, this is the time to shine.
Speaker:This is the time when you can turn your computer into a million dollar business.
Speaker:Instead of saying, I want to build a company, why don't you start saying to
Speaker:yourself, I want to build an empire.
Speaker:Because that's where the thought patterns comes and then neuro pathways will
Speaker:be firing, ready to go because most alcoholics are born with self-sabotage
Speaker:in neural pathways, which means I could go for a week, a month, sometimes even a
Speaker:year building up this business and making this brand outlook for each feature.
Speaker:And then I go on a series of, of sprees and drunken episodes
Speaker:and, and ruin everything.
Speaker:You know, the most self care neuro pathways we have in our brain, the better
Speaker:chance we stand of becoming a success.
Speaker:And then of course, Vit you've got to look at what is success?
Speaker:Is success working a nine to five job looking at my family?
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Is success getting my children back for the weekend of my wife?
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:All these little journeys and all these little wins that we have, you must take
Speaker:advantage of them and realize there's always somebody worse off than you.
Speaker:When I was on the streets, there was people worse off than me.
Speaker:I saw people on the streets.
Speaker:Who couldn't walk.
Speaker:They would be wheelchaired.
Speaker:I saw surgeons on the street.
Speaker:. Because of alcohol, like real, real heart surgeons, you know?
Speaker:And, you know, they, they, they just lost everything because of alcohol.
Speaker:But if you want it bad enough, it'll come.
Speaker:That's how the universe works.
Speaker:It's like, if you convince yourself like internal dialogue
Speaker:is very important for success.
Speaker:If I drop a pen on the floor, I used to say, oh what a stupid idiot.
Speaker:Stop saying that because your brain, the subconscious brain will take that.
Speaker:Just like your parents said, stop doing that.
Speaker:You'll never be clever enough.
Speaker:No, you can't go to college Robb.
Speaker:You're not as clever as your brother.
Speaker:You know, all this stuff that we take in as teenagers, we tend
Speaker:to carry on through adult life.
Speaker:I've dropped a pen on the floor.
Speaker:I'm not a stupid idiot.
Speaker:. I've just dropped a pen on the.
Speaker:my head am I so concentrating?
Speaker:We'll take the end.
Speaker:And now we go with new neural pathways, healthy ones.
Speaker:So when the rubber hits the road and I want to self-sabotage, there are
Speaker:more healthy neuro-pathways and there are billions, the neuros of sabotage,
Speaker:and that's one of the keys to success.
Speaker:You can have anything you want.
Speaker:Don't let anybody tell you any different.
Speaker:I came from the project from the counselors.
Speaker:I was the, I was the kid that waved the school bus off.
Speaker:Cause they were going on a camping trip, four miles away at the local park.
Speaker:But my mom and dad couldn't afford to pay for me to go.
Speaker:Trauma PTSD from that.
Speaker:I am that guy and look at me today and I'm actually waving a flag
Speaker:for anybody who's been left behind anybody that that's a trauma as a kid,
Speaker:anybody is living on the poverty line.
Speaker:That's not the way you do it guys, come on.
Speaker:We all know we can do this.
Speaker:It's easy.
Speaker:Once you get in mind, just find out, find out the why and how will come by.
Speaker:Not the why.
Speaker:What's your, why?
Speaker:My, why is I want it to spread the news of addiction and
Speaker:alcoholism and joy to everybody that I meet and it came America.
Speaker:Here we go.
Speaker:Boom.
Speaker:The last program I was on went to 18 million people.
Speaker:That's a big platform.
Speaker:And that's what I, that's why I want to, when I came and I surround
Speaker:myself by the right people, when I first came to America, I had a couple
Speaker:of friends that weren't any good, but I didn't know any different.
Speaker:And I said to them, well, I want to, I want to, I was thinking of writing a book.
Speaker:And they were like, there's no way, I'm sorry, but there's no
Speaker:way you're not going to do it.
Speaker:So I left it for a few years, but when it comes to San Antonio six,
Speaker:I don't know how long ago it was.
Speaker:I surround myself with a bunch of guys and I said, one day, you know,
Speaker:we're all drinking coffee, thinking of writing a book and their reply was, wow.
Speaker:We thought you'd already wrote one.
Speaker:That's a great idea.
Speaker:So it's the people, you know, show me your friends, I'll show you a future
Speaker:That whole rewiring your brain.
Speaker:I'm a firm believer and it's, it's so great to hear it from you as well.
Speaker:Like just to strengthen that message because, it is absolutely true.
Speaker:It's it's it's the moment you, You refocus your thoughts to do
Speaker:something more positive, right?
Speaker:That's going to shift your actions.
Speaker:It's going to shift your circumstances, but it doesn't happen overnight, right?
Speaker:Like if you're talking about how you're wired, like how you're wired
Speaker:towards, let's say self-sabotage.
Speaker:That's literally like your neurons fire towards that.
Speaker:So that's what always triggers those thoughts.
Speaker:So if you want to change that, it's kinda like, I think I've said
Speaker:the analogy in the podcast before.
Speaker:I would say, think about it like a highway, right?
Speaker:As a, as a, as a highway and as, as, as a, as a thick traffic and
Speaker:you're stuck in that traffic.
Speaker:and you have to move along the same way, like the rest of the traffic.
Speaker:And that's kind of where you are now.
Speaker:In order to change that you kind of need to create a new path.
Speaker:She kind of have to break through the breakthrough to what do you
Speaker:call those things on the side of the road, those barriers barriers, right?
Speaker:I have to break through the barriers and imagine there's a thick Bush around
Speaker:those on either side of the road.
Speaker:So you cannot drive there the first time you're going to drive in, into that Bush.
Speaker:You know, you gotta, you're gonna have to like cut through some trees.
Speaker:and it's going to be hard.
Speaker:But behind you, you've already cleared a little bit of a path.
Speaker:So the next time you're going to go in there again, you're gonna
Speaker:clear up a little bit more of the path and then keep going.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:Maybe you've got a machete.
Speaker:You can keep chopping the bushes and keep going forward.
Speaker:It clearing that path.
Speaker:And sooner than later, as you keep going further and further, like chipping
Speaker:away just a little bit by bit behind you, stuff starts to grow start to,
Speaker:you know, start to grow behind you.
Speaker:So it's going to be hotter and how to come back.
Speaker:That's kind of how I think about like pathways, like more, you
Speaker:stay focused on the positive.
Speaker:The other wires starts to disconnect.
Speaker:Yeah, we are.
Speaker:We have a way of pointing its repetition, strengthen and confirms.
Speaker:The more you do it, the easier you become it's like being a
Speaker:pilot or something like 50,000.
Speaker:I don't know how many hours are needed to fly a jumbo jet or something.
Speaker:Get the Alison, get the neuro-pathways flying.
Speaker:It's like, you gotta be careful what you seeand what you do.
Speaker:So if you're doing healthy neural pathways, if you're cutting off and
Speaker:going through the bush every single day than the path becomes normal.
Speaker:So even sometimes when you come on that freeway and it's not that busy, your
Speaker:normal path would be off to the side.
Speaker:Cause you know, that works it's quicker and it's safe.
Speaker:So the more we use it, the more, the more we get, but we have to
Speaker:watch what we see and what we have.
Speaker:I'll give you a quick example right now.
Speaker:It's like,
Speaker:if people are saying the wrong things around you, you're going to take that in.
Speaker:So if you hang around nine depressed people, you will become the number 10.
Speaker:You know, it's simple as that.
Speaker:So what I'll say to everybody listening now real quickly, is
Speaker:concentrate for a second and I'm going to ask you not to do something.
Speaker:Please do not do it.
Speaker:Whatever happens.
Speaker:Don't think of an elephant, damn it, all thought of an elephant.
Speaker:That's how that's how easy it is to convince someone
Speaker:that they're not any good.
Speaker:They're a waste of time and they'll never amount to anything.
Speaker:You only got to look at the past.
Speaker:The superstars I've passed away from one or two comments to go from the carpenters.
Speaker:Somebody says she was fun.
Speaker:Next minute she died of anorexia.
Speaker:You know, we've got to take in the good thing.
Speaker:Repetition strengthen and confirms.
Speaker:You have to realize how powerful you are.
Speaker:Every human being can be a powerful force and power to do amazing stuff,
Speaker:but it's what people tell us, you know, you never be any good, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker:And they don't really mean it.
Speaker:The abandonment, the shame, the guilt, the trauma that we carry
Speaker:as a child and parents don't mean to do it, but they do it.
Speaker:Everybody does.
Speaker:So when you get older, it's about going back and doing that work, getting back
Speaker:to the scene of the crime as we call it and make sure that you clear all that
Speaker:stuff up, you're clearly abandon it all.
Speaker:Where we live in a million dollar house.
Speaker:One patient said, I said, how often do you see your dad?
Speaker:Or just Sunday for an hour?
Speaker:Why always working all the time?
Speaker:That's abandonment, that's PTSD.
Speaker:You're going to carry for rest your life.
Speaker:And every single time, especially women, no relationships has ever worked.
Speaker:Because dad used to leave, all week apart from an hour.
Speaker:So it fucks with relationships, it involves our success.
Speaker:I met Arnold Schwarzenneger back in 1979, and He just released, an
Speaker:underground movie called Pumping Iron.
Speaker:And he was doing a little seminar in England and I was a
Speaker:semi-professional bodybuilder at the time.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:and a couple of others were chosen to go and pick them up from the airport and
Speaker:show him his hotel and just stay with him.
Speaker:Keep his company.
Speaker:I got into some serious talks with Arnold, even though his English were very broken.
Speaker:He came from the Grass in Austria, very broken, but he said three things
Speaker:to me that always stuck in my mind.
Speaker:And I said, what, what's the future for you Arnold?
Speaker:I mean, this bodybuilding is good, but it's not enough.
Speaker:You can't make any money out of it.
Speaker:And he says, I don't intend to , but I, one day I want to be the highest paid
Speaker:movie actor in the world, but we kind of smiled and embarrassed and thinking
Speaker:the guy can't even speak English.
Speaker:You know what?
Speaker:Nevermind movie star.
Speaker:Check.
Speaker:Then he said to us, I want to be a governor of a state,
Speaker:preferably California.
Speaker:We started laughing even more.
Speaker:Check.
Speaker:And then he said to us, the final thing that made us burst out laughing.
Speaker:He said he wanted to marry into the Kennedy family.
Speaker:Check.
Speaker:All these things that he did.
Speaker:He put his mind to.
Speaker:You have to realize how powerful we are as human beings and individuals.
Speaker:I remember him having a Ferrari once and he pulled up.
Speaker:I didn't, well, it wasn't within this story.
Speaker:I know to be true.
Speaker:He pulled up at a traffic lights and some kids pulled in a normal car wreck
Speaker:trying to race him, and as they sped off with squealing, it just took off
Speaker:at five miles an hour and carried on and he stayed his message from that
Speaker:was if you know how powerful you are, you don't have to prove it to anybody.
Speaker:Just to make things happen.
Speaker:You want to be rich, you know, it's like a basketball court quantum physics.
Speaker:I can be 25 places at the same time on that court.
Speaker:It's quantum physics.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Well, where do I want to be, I want to be over near the goal.
Speaker:So when I got the ball, you're going to smack it in the goal.
Speaker:I'm going to be the head of the game.
Speaker:Can you see yourself there?
Speaker:My mental says.
Speaker:I says, yeah, I can see myself there.
Speaker:How do I get there though?
Speaker:And he's replying with dropped me down on my knees.
Speaker:He said, walk over and take the position Robb.
Speaker:I'm like what?
Speaker:You've already visualized it, walk over and take the position.
Speaker:And that's where many people go wrong because they visualize
Speaker:something that they oh, no.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:That's crazy.
Speaker:I can't do that.
Speaker:Why do you think Apple guys come from, a Google guys and Amazon guys?
Speaker:I have a picture of the Amazon guy in a tiny little office with
Speaker:a, with a canvas at the back of him sprayed on saying Amazon.
Speaker:Selling five bucks a week, but you had a dream in the end, a vision,
Speaker:and he believed in it, he believed.
Speaker:Netflix did the same, you know, everybody was selling videos and renting
Speaker:videos, they've tried to go and, you know, help work with blockbuster.
Speaker:Blockbuster said, no, you're too small.
Speaker:You can't do anything.
Speaker:Well, so many Netflix and I'll take you as a CEO said, screw you.
Speaker:We can do everything we want to do.
Speaker:And sooner or later the blockbusters go out with our business because of Netflix.
Speaker:It's all about knowing.
Speaker:It's all about belief.
Speaker:It's all about walking forward.
Speaker:And every single day making sure stuff happens and a Champion's way
Speaker:to do this is when you get up in the morning, write five things down
Speaker:that you're going to do that day.
Speaker:Even if it's breakfast, lunch, visit the dentist, go for that interview
Speaker:by wife, some flowers, put it down every morning and then five things
Speaker:cross off as you go through the day.
Speaker:And if you've completed five things, when you finished the day,
Speaker:you've moved forward to your dream.
Speaker:And if you've only done four of them, because you were too busy,
Speaker:then you've taken a step back.
Speaker:We don't , believe in this country, that's the problem.
Speaker:Take the brakes off your imagination, take them off because every
Speaker:single body can do what I've done.
Speaker:I'm not, I wish I could sit here Vit and tell you how special I am.
Speaker:And how amazing..
Speaker:, I'm nothing special.
Speaker:I just had a dream and a vision.
Speaker:This is great, what you just said, like I was, I was going to ask you about that.
Speaker:Like how can somebody, how can somebody that is in a really, really dark place
Speaker:What would be like the easiest first step?
Speaker:And so this is great.
Speaker:like focus on something super simple.
Speaker:Like even if it's like, I'm going to.
Speaker:Eat a breakfast today, I'm going to eat lunch and I'm going to eat dinner
Speaker:and I'm going to go for five minutes, walk something that is super low-key.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:And by accomplishing those things, that's like that first step, Like, it's going
Speaker:to give you a a bit of a satisfaction, something like you can say, okay.
Speaker:I, I thought about doing it and I did it and I've accomplished it and I can, okay.
Speaker:If that's it, the brain, the brain takes as a success, you want to start the day
Speaker:off, great have succeeded in something?
Speaker:Make.
Speaker:laughter.
Speaker:My mentor told me Tom and I make that make him a better wife to make your bed Rob.
Speaker:And I did it and the brain looks at it as, as a win.
Speaker:You, you do four of them a day.
Speaker:All of a sudden you're winning every single thing you do.
Speaker:And once your imagination is fired.
Speaker:Ask for that job, go for that job.
Speaker:Ask for that girlfriend or that boyfriend ask for the house.
Speaker:There's no reason at all, why you can't do it.
Speaker:You just need to set your life out planning every single day.
Speaker:When you get up, make bed, lunch,dinner, walk, .Flowers, the next day, make
Speaker:bad go for a 10 mile run, you know, apply for that to get five things every
Speaker:single day in the morning, the night before, write them down and the brain
Speaker:will get used to success all the time.
Speaker:That's all it is.
Speaker:And, and the, and the more the subconscious brain loads, them, new
Speaker:neural pathways and ideas, when you come to self-sabotage, which is, oh my
Speaker:God, I've got an interview tomorrow.
Speaker:Oh my God.
Speaker:Oh my God.
Speaker:The brain's not going to do that.
Speaker:The brain is going to go, yeah, this is yours.
Speaker:This is yours.
Speaker:Walk in.
Speaker:We prep the highest paid actors and footballers.
Speaker:We work with them, a normal guy sweeping the road.
Speaker:We, we, we prep them for that.
Speaker:One of the guys we had, they knew, I took him to my private clinic in
Speaker:Texas I picked him up from jail.
Speaker:We did, there was a bunch of us, picked him up from jail and.
Speaker:The judge says, I'm gonna release it to you, Dr.
Speaker:Rob, but let me tell you categorically that if he goes missing, cause he
Speaker:always did, he will, he was a runner then, and this is a broken down actor
Speaker:who Hollywood had had enough of him.
Speaker:And we took him back to our ranch and we convinced him that within
Speaker:90 days, he was going to be the biggest movie star ever, ever.
Speaker:And we worked on him and we worked on him and everybody in the clinic worked
Speaker:on him, everytime he past looking great.
Speaker:Oh my God, you're amazing.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:Which everyone has.
Speaker:And he started to believe it.
Speaker:And he got more confidence in two weeks before he was due to leave.
Speaker:A big parcel came and the mail and the, and the chauffeur went
Speaker:down to the gate to pick it up.
Speaker:And he brought it up to the house and he said, Dr.
Speaker:Rob, there's the package for your guy?
Speaker:And I walked to him and i pass it to him, and he looked at this package
Speaker:and he looks at me and he opened it and he pulled it out and he went, oh
Speaker:my God, it's a script for Iron Man.
Speaker:And that the rest is history.
Speaker:That was a Robert Downey Junior?
Speaker:And the rest is history and that's how you do life.
Speaker:That's how we do life today.
Speaker:I've had a guy who always wanted to do, he wanted to be the forman , he
Speaker:wanted to be a manager of this road crew that went around sweeping roads.
Speaker:That was his ambition.
Speaker:And that's all he wanted to do.
Speaker:We prepped him for that.
Speaker:When the interview was time he walked in, he snatched that job.
Speaker:It already, he's already got it before he even walked in.
Speaker:He was so confident, not cocky, but confident that he would get this,
Speaker:that they almost didn't interview him.
Speaker:He walks in proud, he sat down, he looked him straight in the eye
Speaker:and he started off with about me.
Speaker:What do I do?
Speaker:What I'm about why do I want this job and how I could make you proud of the success?
Speaker:And within four or five minutes of him leaving, they called him
Speaker:up and said, you've got the job.
Speaker:This is what life's about.
Speaker:And people are scared.
Speaker:I can't do that Robbbb.
Speaker:Not me.
Speaker:I'm not that clever.
Speaker:I beg to differ million dollar mind going to college for four years.
Speaker:doesn't make you anything special you know,,, especially these days.
Speaker:If you want to know a complicated answer or riddle or math, Google it, Google it,
Speaker:all the answers are there,, you know, you can be the smartest man in the room.
Speaker:If you spend some time on Google and find out what stuffs.
Speaker:So the game has changed, guys.
Speaker:It really has changed.
Speaker:There's more unemployed PhDs than there are working PhDs.
Speaker:That's all I'm saying about that.
Speaker:So powerful, Rob, have you got anything for small business owners?
Speaker:you know, you keep hearing this, you know?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:not now.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:We can't afford you.
Speaker:And what would you say to that?
Speaker:What would be something that you've you've you've used like maybe a phrase or,
Speaker:yeah, well, I was a obviously small business owner.
Speaker:If, if, if not now, Guys, if not now, when I have to ask people,
Speaker:when I, when I go into companies, I
Speaker:what's your most valuable asset and they go, oh, our staff.
Speaker:Wrong!
Speaker:Most valuable asset is the customer, you know, one or two people working for you.
Speaker:It's unbelievable what we can create these days on your own, on the internet.
Speaker:Treat everybody nice, inspire, no matter if you have one customer or two, do
Speaker:the best you can every day with them.
Speaker:And, and, and it's like, it's like a, I don't know, it's
Speaker:like a smiling or laughing.
Speaker:It's contagious.
Speaker:And people would have mounted the best form of appetizer in this world ever.
Speaker:And now everybody's gone in doors.
Speaker:It's even better.
Speaker:You know, we reach more people, more people, our, our more the day, you know,
Speaker:it's just like, if you want to stay a small business owner, do it with pride,
Speaker:whether you're cleaning somebody's windows or whether you're, you know,
Speaker:educating somebody to work at the highest computer in the world, do it with pride.
Speaker:Do it, cause you want to.
Speaker:You know, I, I used to get up on a, on a, on a Sunday, especially Sunday night
Speaker:and go, oh my God, it's work tomorrow.
Speaker:If you're doing that guys, you're in the wrong job.
Speaker:I created a company that people get up on a Sunday, have a great day and Sunday
Speaker:night and think, oh my God, it's amazing.
Speaker:I've got work tomorrow.
Speaker:It's all about passion.
Speaker:Get passionate, have passion about whatever you do and have belief belief
Speaker:that you're going to be a success.
Speaker:Start living as if you're going to have success.
Speaker:The guys that come in Vit, broken down, I take him to the Porche
Speaker:dealerships and I let them drive round in 911 is worth $150,000.
Speaker:I'd take him to the million dollar listings and we walk around
Speaker:as if we're going to buy it.
Speaker:And the reason why I do that is he's already acting like a millionaire.
Speaker:So when he comes and it will.
Speaker:The brain doesn't freak out and go, oh my God, this, this expensive car,
Speaker:it gets in the car and his brain goes, oh yeah, I remember this.
Speaker:This is very comfortable.
Speaker:You know, so always think positive.
Speaker:Everybody has bad days.
Speaker:Well, I don't have bad days.
Speaker:I have a better day than others, but everyone has down days.
Speaker:Come on.
Speaker:This is not about you as a business owner.
Speaker:This is about your customers.
Speaker:This is how you can provide to a local community or nationwide a
Speaker:service with love, kindness, and care.
Speaker:And I tell you something now, if it doesn't work, call me, I'll give
Speaker:you a half a million or something.
Speaker:You know, it always works.
Speaker:It's proven, tried success route to go down in
Speaker:. Rob this whole interview.
Speaker:Amazing.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:We've really turned it around didn't we?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:It was very dark and gloomy, especially, I was shocked when he said that yeah.
Speaker:That you stop your wife and started to bring him back up.
Speaker:But that was, you know, I was, I was kind of like what the hell?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And the madness of what I went through.
Speaker:It was insanity is where I was.
Speaker:So, yeah, but there's always a good turn.
Speaker:See I had to go through that Vit to become the person I am today.
Speaker:All that, all that stuff that I went through, it was like a
Speaker:semester at Harvard, the knowledge, information, and gift that I have
Speaker:today for pass on to other people.
Speaker:That's what it's all about.
Speaker:Whether you're selling bananas.
Speaker:or you're selling corporate jets, it makes no difference
Speaker:how can I best serve the today.
Speaker:Tell us about what do you guys do now with your business and you
Speaker:know, some of your achievements.
Speaker:We're Rob Kelly Recovery Group or Rob Kelly Group, the website is robbkelly.com,
Speaker:which is R O B B two base spell the name of CBS Kelly, K E L L y.com.
Speaker:We have we that business and, we have, five offices around the world.
Speaker:We have Dallas, Texas.
Speaker:We have San Antonio, Texas.
Speaker:We have Manchester United Kingdom,
Speaker:we have Mallorca in Spain and we have Zurich in Switzerland
Speaker:that have five offices.
Speaker:We use most of all.
Speaker:Is, is honest and, and pro bono, depending on, you know, we have a 20% pro bono,
Speaker:things that we're always giving back.
Speaker:We spent over a hundred thousand dollars last year giving back into
Speaker:the communities around the country and sometimes around the world.
Speaker:We've, we've, we've oftene when you're working with, you know, young
Speaker:moms whose father has left because alcoholics or alcoholic dads, you
Speaker:want the kids back for the weekend.
Speaker:You know, we will give them money.
Speaker:We will buy them, you know, a little car we will pay the first
Speaker:six months rent in that apartment.
Speaker:We just help people and give back on a daily basis.
Speaker:There's always a request coming in for people that are really in a bad, bad
Speaker:state, because that's what we do you know, we do a lot of other charitable.
Speaker:I did a charity thing two or three nights ago.
Speaker:I did it for a war veterans, EMTs and police officers.
Speaker:And it was a PTSD talk.
Speaker:So we do lots of talks, lots of training.
Speaker:we run a recovery coach course as well, four times a year.
Speaker:It's a 10 weeks, a hundred hours . We do that as well.
Speaker:But yeah, we just do a lot of radio, a lot TV as you know, And,
Speaker:thinking of writing my second book.
Speaker:And funny enough, if you, the book by the way is on Amazon and in Walmart,
Speaker:and every single dime or penny, goes straight back into the community.
Speaker:We take no profits off it, all everything goes back in to the communities and
Speaker:we thought we'd name it, the last thing my daughter said to me, which was
Speaker:'Daddy, daddy, please stop drinking'.
Speaker:So that's the name of the book, but just to cap everything, just
Speaker:to prove to everybody that things can be turned around is my youngest
Speaker:daughter all these years on.
Speaker:I've never got in contact with me, but three years ago, four years
Speaker:ago, my oldest daughter contact me on Facebook through messenger.
Speaker:And she says, dad, I've just seen you on TV.
Speaker:You know, I want to, I want to meet you, because I'm not
Speaker:seeing it since she was three.
Speaker:so I flew over to England and we had a great meeting at the front door.
Speaker:And then she took me into her apartment and she introduced me to
Speaker:my three month old granddaughter.
Speaker:And my heart was absolutely broken.
Speaker:It was just beautiful, beautiful love.
Speaker:And then after conversations had been there for a few days, she
Speaker:said, I want to do what you do, dad.
Speaker:I want to become a.
Speaker:Neuro linguistic programmer.
Speaker:and there's a course and I'll become a therapist.
Speaker:So I paid for it to go through the course.
Speaker:And six months ago she opened my Manchester office.
Speaker:So now she works for dad and dad's no longer a drunk and a bum
Speaker:Congratulations to that.
Speaker:That's incredible,
Speaker:Rob.
Speaker:Let's wrap this up.
Speaker:This was amazing.
Speaker:So what would be top three biggest takeaways.
Speaker:You'd like our listeners to walk away with after listening today,
Speaker:Believe in yourself, a hundred percent.
Speaker:love others always, love others, even if they do wrong, and be true to yourself.
Speaker:That's it?
Speaker:Rob, thank you so much for jumping on this interview.
Speaker:I know you're a busy guy, so I appreciate you sharing the story.
Speaker:and I really hope that's my biggest wish is that we've right now in someone's
Speaker:ears, listening to this help make an impact and maybe plan the seed towards.
Speaker:whether it's recovery from addiction to alcohol, drugs or
Speaker:recovery from depression, whatever recovery, I hope that we've made
Speaker:it a positive impact on somebody's.
Speaker:it doesn't.
Speaker:It doesn't have to always get as bad for you to realize that you
Speaker:need to shift your things around.
Speaker:You know, Rob stories is incredible.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:kind of, yeah, that's kind of what I, all I have So, thank you once again.
Speaker:Thank you for jumping on the show.
Speaker:and thank you guys for listening.
Speaker:Thank you guys for listening to today's episode on the Success Inspired Podcast.
Speaker:Now, if you've enjoyed this interview and you found it impactful and you feel
Speaker:like this could help somebody else by listening to this and please, please share
Speaker:it with your mates, sharing your socials.
Speaker:all the links are on the, on the page, you know, share it with
Speaker:anybody that you think that would would benefit from listening, okay.
Speaker:So for any show notes and the links, I'm going to put Rob's link.
Speaker:So if any of you out there that's like need help.
Speaker:you know, he's he's clinics around the world.
Speaker:Zurich, Manchester, Mallorca, and then two in Texas.
Speaker:You can reach out to him for help and you don't have to live there.
Speaker:You know, I'm pretty sure the rope has stuff that he does online.
Speaker:You know, it's, I'd be surprised if he doesn't have that stuff, right?
Speaker:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:So, so for any show notes, some of the links in the extra tips, anything like
Speaker:that to help you accomplish more in life and realize your true potential,
Speaker:please go to successinspiredpodcast.com and Rob's website is robbkelly.com.
Speaker:It's R O B BK e double L y.com.
Speaker:so thank you and have a great rest of your day, everybody
